”It’s
easy to be shiny if you rent a large sander and start polishing.”
In my life, I've always been interested in seeing how much
sheen there is to someone without cosmetics. How much sparkle
is there in the rough or, at the most, through the natural abrasion of scraping
across the other sandy elements the stone rubs against? Virtue in adversity? Grace in diminution?
It is for this reason, I think, that I have always given
people a long cord of leniency. I do not
demand or express wishes. How they
should be towards me. How they should be
toward the world. Some people have seen
this as an absence of the desire for respect.
I have always seen it as a berth by which to view an element’s
properties. That is to say, a person’s
character.
What is interesting is that even through the polish of deliberate
effort, people’s nature shines through.
Sometimes the polish itself will tell you what is at the center. Is it very hard and full of effort? Is it so shiny as to be suspicious? Has it been so carefully applied that no one
is supposed to be able to tell it is there?
Through the nature of the effort, we can look in on who
lives inside. And through its
absence, we can see more directly into the center. This is what is to be appreciated about those
who do not polish. They are asking you
to do less work. And, they are smart
enough to know they can’t hide anyway.
There are pathologies of not shining, of course. Some people go in the opposite direction and
cake on the dirt, as if indeed too ashamed of their own roughness to have it
show naturally. Caking dirt is the same
as polishing assiduously: it is an
effort to disguise. Only, the dirt
approach is a response to disdain for the shiny. It is sometimes a result of the recognition
that much too much shining will be necessary for a truly shiny polish,
that this is too much work or too expensive and
that the only way left to engage the game is to play it in reverse. Unfortunately, this reaction is no more free than the one that is devoted to cosmetic beauty. Just as in cases where one person responds to fear by running and one responds by standing still, the opposing parties are responding with anxiety to the same circumstance: usually a broad array of societal pressures. In the one case, a person is interested in subduing the pressures and showing disdain for them while in the other, he is interested in meeting them so perfectly that no one will see the effort for the glow.
It is a property of the rough-shine rule that the more sheen or dirt is present, the more damage is underneath. As mentioned, it is easy to parse through the
layers of coating, but it does seem a service of the well-adjusted to not
make you dig. They are attractive
because they are not hiding and so there is no work to be done in seeing them. It is a double grace: a service to you through a personal strength of theirs. It seems almost as if the function itself of not holding heavy sanders or loads of dirt renders them unnecessary. As if the space around a laden individual is warped and needs the smoothing his equipment can render while a freer space has few kinks and does not need smoothers that, appropriately, is not there.
Because I believe that a lot of veneer is a pathology of
those who fear too strongly that their shine will be undiscovered, I favor those who, without trying, polish the outer
coating of their exterior by placing themselves among friends and activities that do the work for them. Unafraid and
productive, they come out smooth in end.
It is harder than renting equipment like a name-brand school or a known lucrative profession but it is truer, creates fewer layers to parse
through and, in the end, offers its surroundings the full scope of possibility.
It is, in a popular word today, organic:
grown from itself and its influence. Employing feedback loops and eschewing with long-term planning.
This kind of trek requires constant inquiry. Like the particle falling to the grown that
asks, at every new instant, what the direction of least resistance is NOW, the unaffected person asks at every turn what the way to go is now. This precludes a reliance on
long-distance plans and disallows, as I have mentioned, the use of heavy social
cosmetic machinery like degrees and titles.
In this person’s life, the titles are those that his friends and
colleagues put upon him as a result of his path. They are not ones he reached for before he was close to them or planned ahead from his childhood. They may be milestones he sensed he would meet but not because of any dogged determination. There is a difference between assiduously chiseling your way through a rough tunnel with a distant goal in mind and chiseling as you go because your pockets scrape the side of your path.
You could say that, in the one, the pockets hold the key to what is chiseled and in the other a paper plan does.
As the chiseler keeps referring to his plan, looking down and up and down and up, a smoothness is lost to the resulting path. Sure, it may be forceful, and that's just the point: the force of the effort will be obvious. It will be obvious from his dinner table to his attitude to his fear of obstruction to a resentment for those who do not carry big tools.
Sure, it is easier, but it is also rougher. And the whole system those senses the weight of the power tools. Senses it and crumbles under it, kinking the space everyone wants to make so smooth.

